Aly, thank you for dismantling the false dichotomy of grace and growth! It always surprises me how necessary an ingredient grace is in growth. In reflecting on your two lists, I wonder if we traditionally perceive "growth" as the external signs (i.e., above-the-surface), whereas grace comes from trusting that there are internal signs of growth (perhaps, to continue with this metaphor, deeper roots?). If so, I celebrate these less-visible signs of growth in you (e.g.., you didn't post last week and the sky didn't fall! Slash, I definitely didn't even notice!).
P.S. Grace/growth is another parallel to true/false projects, no?
P.P.S. Those broken crayons stubs are none of my business.
Hi Lisa, I do think you touched on a key component of grace--trust. The trust that the inner work is happening, trust that you are on the right trajectory, trust in your identity even if the external progress doesn't match your expectations. Haha, it's both a relief and a source of anxiety that readers don't notice if I post--I guess that can be a growth point for me!
Ooh, I'm interested in exploring this true/false projects parallel. I see grace and growth more as two values and there could be real/false projects associated with both. Ex: false grace project --I need to make sure I never overdo it or push myself too hard. Real grace project-extend compassion to myself when I get caught up in achieving. Ex: false growth project--push to meet my growth measures by any means necessary. Real growth project--make steady (and even inconsistent!) progress toward my goals. Not sure if that makes sense!
And broken crayon stubs are definitely none of my business!
Caring without being compulsive--much easier said than done! I am gratefully at the part in my OCD recovery where I am able to move forward on projects and things I care about in meaningful ways.
That reel. LOL. oh my god, so many things that I want to make not my business. I'm giving grace to my kids/me after school - watch the damn TV, eat the damn snacks, take a shower/don't shower, let's just care for each other so we can get through another school day!
Aly, thank you for dismantling the false dichotomy of grace and growth! It always surprises me how necessary an ingredient grace is in growth. In reflecting on your two lists, I wonder if we traditionally perceive "growth" as the external signs (i.e., above-the-surface), whereas grace comes from trusting that there are internal signs of growth (perhaps, to continue with this metaphor, deeper roots?). If so, I celebrate these less-visible signs of growth in you (e.g.., you didn't post last week and the sky didn't fall! Slash, I definitely didn't even notice!).
P.S. Grace/growth is another parallel to true/false projects, no?
P.P.S. Those broken crayons stubs are none of my business.
Hi Lisa, I do think you touched on a key component of grace--trust. The trust that the inner work is happening, trust that you are on the right trajectory, trust in your identity even if the external progress doesn't match your expectations. Haha, it's both a relief and a source of anxiety that readers don't notice if I post--I guess that can be a growth point for me!
Ooh, I'm interested in exploring this true/false projects parallel. I see grace and growth more as two values and there could be real/false projects associated with both. Ex: false grace project --I need to make sure I never overdo it or push myself too hard. Real grace project-extend compassion to myself when I get caught up in achieving. Ex: false growth project--push to meet my growth measures by any means necessary. Real growth project--make steady (and even inconsistent!) progress toward my goals. Not sure if that makes sense!
And broken crayon stubs are definitely none of my business!
"I am learning to care without being compulsive." What a good reminder; I will be repeating that to myself! And I loved that Hamilton reference.
Caring without being compulsive--much easier said than done! I am gratefully at the part in my OCD recovery where I am able to move forward on projects and things I care about in meaningful ways.
That reel. LOL. oh my god, so many things that I want to make not my business. I'm giving grace to my kids/me after school - watch the damn TV, eat the damn snacks, take a shower/don't shower, let's just care for each other so we can get through another school day!