Ooof. I resonated deeply with decision paralysis. Lifelong perfectionist and people pleaser 😩 I want to do everything right AND for everyone to be happy. No wonder my husband used to find me twirling in circles in the kitchen when I was overwhelmed. (Fun fact: I did a rotation in an OCD treatment clinic doing exposure therapy and never considered this aspect of it at all…)
Needing for everything to be right AND needing everyone to be happy-talk about pressure! I can see why you’d twirl in the kitchen!
I’ve realized I’m an “OCD pleaser” not necessarily a people pleaser, which I’m not especially proud of and isn’t a particularly loving way to live, but does make some of my recovery a bit easier if I’m not completely obsessing about what other people think.
That’s so interesting that you did a rotation at an OCD clinic! Exposure and response prevention has been life-changing for me! And almost all of my compulsions are internal/mental compulsions, so by default I have a lot of tips and tricks that tackle the mental spirals.
Hahahah aww thanks!! I’m working on compassion and boundaries. I’ve never done word for the year but I’ve decided that next year’s word is gentle 😆
I love EX/RP and I think all my rotation was focussed on external compulsions. Fascinating to read about internal compulsions. Strongly relate to the spiralling. Thanks for sharing 💛
I resonate with the power of boundaries and compassion! (And how they’re both easy in concept, but hard in practice). I love the word gentle for you! So different than thriving and perfect and right—you can be gentle in any situation.
After years and years of pretty unhelpful treatment for anxiety and depression, I am so grateful I found a therapist who identified my spirals as mental compulsions and pointed me to OCD treatment. I had no idea about mental compulsions before either!
I definitely need to make myself one of these! Seems like it would the perfection application for a dopamenu. Keep me accountable when I next vent about having "the Saturdays." ;P
I love this idea! I get analysis paralysis SO intensely, I need to implement this trick. Everything you share has me wondering if I have some OCD going on because I relate so much!
Let me know if you try it out! Analysis paralysis is so tricky because it FEELS like you're being so responsible weighing all the decisions. Oh girl, I had no idea that the anxiety I was experiencing was OCD for so long. It may be worth looking into OCD, even if just to rule it out! I also have found a lot of the OCD recovery tips to be helpful life advice for anyone!
Oof, decisions are infinitely harder when you're in the thick of grief, and it feels like there's extra pressure to honor the person you're missing's memory. Sending so much grace to you! I do hope you find some ways to take the pressure off the decisions and allow yourself to show up imperfectly.
Ooof. I resonated deeply with decision paralysis. Lifelong perfectionist and people pleaser 😩 I want to do everything right AND for everyone to be happy. No wonder my husband used to find me twirling in circles in the kitchen when I was overwhelmed. (Fun fact: I did a rotation in an OCD treatment clinic doing exposure therapy and never considered this aspect of it at all…)
Needing for everything to be right AND needing everyone to be happy-talk about pressure! I can see why you’d twirl in the kitchen!
I’ve realized I’m an “OCD pleaser” not necessarily a people pleaser, which I’m not especially proud of and isn’t a particularly loving way to live, but does make some of my recovery a bit easier if I’m not completely obsessing about what other people think.
That’s so interesting that you did a rotation at an OCD clinic! Exposure and response prevention has been life-changing for me! And almost all of my compulsions are internal/mental compulsions, so by default I have a lot of tips and tricks that tackle the mental spirals.
Hahahah aww thanks!! I’m working on compassion and boundaries. I’ve never done word for the year but I’ve decided that next year’s word is gentle 😆
I love EX/RP and I think all my rotation was focussed on external compulsions. Fascinating to read about internal compulsions. Strongly relate to the spiralling. Thanks for sharing 💛
I resonate with the power of boundaries and compassion! (And how they’re both easy in concept, but hard in practice). I love the word gentle for you! So different than thriving and perfect and right—you can be gentle in any situation.
After years and years of pretty unhelpful treatment for anxiety and depression, I am so grateful I found a therapist who identified my spirals as mental compulsions and pointed me to OCD treatment. I had no idea about mental compulsions before either!
This is such a great strategy!!!
Thank you, Krista!
I definitely need to make myself one of these! Seems like it would the perfection application for a dopamenu. Keep me accountable when I next vent about having "the Saturdays." ;P
Ooh, I agree this would be perfect for your Saturday decision dilemma. I will hold you to picking a choice and running with it!
I love this idea! I get analysis paralysis SO intensely, I need to implement this trick. Everything you share has me wondering if I have some OCD going on because I relate so much!
Let me know if you try it out! Analysis paralysis is so tricky because it FEELS like you're being so responsible weighing all the decisions. Oh girl, I had no idea that the anxiety I was experiencing was OCD for so long. It may be worth looking into OCD, even if just to rule it out! I also have found a lot of the OCD recovery tips to be helpful life advice for anyone!
Decision fatigue is so real! I've felt it often while dealing with grief. Thanks for sharing your strategies!
Oof, decisions are infinitely harder when you're in the thick of grief, and it feels like there's extra pressure to honor the person you're missing's memory. Sending so much grace to you! I do hope you find some ways to take the pressure off the decisions and allow yourself to show up imperfectly.