27 Comments
User's avatar
Tabitha's avatar

Aly, I love the vulnerability and openness of this post, the beautiful way you describe the tree and the loss of it. And I also love the phallic baseball bats. 😜 I appreciate when a piece of writing can make me tear up and laugh in the same breath.

Aly Prades's avatar

Thank you, Tabitha. I tried to add a little levity to the sad post. He draws those baseball bats on…everything 😬

Ryan's avatar

Your words remind me of a time in early 2014, of stumbling onto words shared and noticing passion towards loves and interests, of sensitivity and deep introspection. Love you.

Aly Prades's avatar

Thanks, love 💛

Lindsay Fauver's avatar

"The sky screamed loss." Ahh, so honest and achingly beautiful.

Aly Prades's avatar

Thank you, Lindsay. I know sky can also symbolize space and possibility, but for now, it’s so sad to look out at all the sky I didn’t ask for.

Kelsey Aldinger's avatar

Ugh Aly, those pictures are just devastating. I’m so sorry for the loss of your tree and of your friend and for how they’re inextricably linked. Thank you for the way you put words to your loss. ❤️‍🩹

Aly Prades's avatar

Thank you for reading, Kelsey. I’m sorry about your tree, too. I’ll keep putting words to life—the good and the hard.

Stacy Bronec's avatar

So sad about the tree. And your friend's sister. :( I loved the words you wrote while you were at the lake.

Aly Prades's avatar

Thank you, Stacy. It has been a heavy month, but writing helps soothe/make some sense of the loss.

Annie Windholz's avatar

You touch on some really relatable feelings here, Aly. Thanks for writing 💜

Aly Prades's avatar

Thank you, Annie 🌿

Annie Windholz's avatar

You touch on some really real feelings here, Allie. Thanks for writing 💜

Mark Griswold's avatar

Beautiful and painful. Sorry for your loss. I'm reminded of Shel Silverstein's The Giving Tree.

Aly Prades's avatar

Thank you, Mark. I was reminded of The Giving Tree, too, especially when the limbs were chopped off. It felt like such a sad offering/sacrifice.

Laura Jean Bazal's avatar

I still get sad when I visit my home town and see the missing tree that every kid and myself at daycare would climb. It split at just the right part of the trunk and grew wide and sturdy on either side, which made a perfect spot for a kid or two to sit under the shade during afternoon playtime. Trees are more meaningful than we generally think.

Aly Prades's avatar

That tree sounds so magical, Laura! Sorry it is no longer there. Trees are so special.

Kristen Nevarez Schweizer's avatar

A stunning essay. Praying for you and the family --- and grieving the tree with you.

Aly Prades's avatar

Thank you, Kristen. 💛

Jessica Vix Allen's avatar

This was a beautiful piece 💙 We have a wonderful tree in our front yard and I worry about it every time it storms, about what a loss it would be if it fell. I don't know if you've heard of the Every Moment Holy books, but one of them has a "A Liturgy for the Loss of a Tree" that touches on the grief for other, deeper losses that can be brought up when we lose something like a tree that has been important to us.

Aly Prades's avatar

Thank you, Jessica. I hope your tree holds strong for a long, long time! I have heard of that book; that liturgy sounds like it would be very meaningful right now. And, yes, it’s about a tree, but not just a tree 💛

Kristina Tucker's avatar

This is beautiful, and I am aching with you. "help me find the good

help me sit with the loss"... holding both with you friend. 💛

Aly Prades's avatar

Thank you, friend. Leaving space for both.

Laura Rennie's avatar

This is really beautiful, Aly. I ache for you over the loss of your friend’s sister and your special tree.

Aly Prades's avatar

Thank you, Laura 💛

Lisa Ro's avatar

Oh, Aly… I am so deeply sorry for your losses. This is a lot. You are doing such a great job managing, and also being kind to (and strong for) yourself in the midst of so many challenges. Thank you for allowing us to bear witness. <3

Also, I chuckled at this line: "I am a sucker for anxiety..."

Aly Prades's avatar

Thank you, Lisa 💛